You cannot demonize something and heal it, at the same time.

You cannot demonize something and heal it, at the same time. 

You cannot be afraid of something and heal it, at the same same time. 

You cannot punish something and heal it, at the same time. 

This applies to what is within you, as well as what is seen in the external world. 

Guilt, fear, and punishment never lead to genuine healing. Look at your own life for a moment – when you have directed these things towards yourself, have they ever brought you any sense of true healing or peace? Has any lasting good ever come of them? 

No.

Then why do we hold onto these things so tightly, thinking that they will eventually fix something within ourselves, within another, or within the world? 

Working with people from all walks of life, it is astonishing to me how so many beautiful people hold so much deep-seated guilt, thinking that punishing themselves day in and day out will eventually lead to some sense of inner resolve. They think, on some level, that if they punish themselves long-enough, that they will finally pay off some imaginary karmic debt that isn’t even there. 

They think that this guilt and self-punishment will correct or resolve something one day. But that “one day” never comes.

And so I see people literally create entire realities for themselves out of this guilt and self-punishment. They stay in abusive relationships because they think they “owe something” to someone, or that they deserve it on some level. They stay in jobs that are not aligned with their soul’s passion because they feel overly responsible to their own detriment. And they put themselves in harm’s way, because they think they will fix something through unnecessarily carrying the burdens of others. 

And then as an innocent attempt to rid themselves of their own deep-seated guilt, they will often unconsciously project it onto the external world, and decorate their realities with victims and oppressors, with everything and everyone to blame. 

And hence the “world” that we see. 

Guilt and self-punishment are the psychological glues that bind people to the toxic relationships and circumstances in their lives. 

So when someone goes through a genuine healing of breaking a toxic cycle, they will often experience a surge of guilt rising up from the subconscious. 

They will feel “selfish” at first, for leaving the toxic relationship, job, or situation, because the “glue” is being undone. This is a positive sign of healing. As they face the shadow of their guilt, they will see that it functions much like a mirage – where as they walk into it, they discover that there is actually nothing there. It was all smoke and mirrors. 

So as they walk through the cloud of guilt, it begins to disappear, and they will see the shining light of their soul’s innocence, patently awaiting the embrace of its beautiful and unique illumined glow. 

Guilt and self-punishment serve no function. They bear no real fruit. 

People think they are repaying some old karmic debt for something they’ve done, in order to justify their self-abuse. And of course, for most people, this is not happening on the level of conscious awareness, this is occurring on a deeper subconscious level.

Let me let you in on something: Yes, there is karma.

But karma is not a punishment or a debt – it is a learning device. 

And its ultimate teaching is to teach you of your innate innocence, as a radiant and pure extension of Source, God, Creator – whatever you prefer to call It. 

So you are free, the moment that you accept and celebrate yourself for who you truly are, as a unique and invaluable expression of Source. Your Self-acceptance is the ultimate aim of karma’s teaching. You play out as many “karmic experiences” as you need to, in order to learn to embrace your True Self. But only as many as you need to, in order to learn. 

How this applies practically – the moment that you truly realize that you are worth so much more than the abuse that you put yourself through, you are free. And you have all the power in the universe to claim your freedom, and to put yourself in relationships and situations that inspire, uplift and nourish who you are on a soul level. 

But YOU have to take responsibility to claim your own freedom. 

If you don’t, you will subconsciously match the default energy of the collective field, and take on the energy of guilt and self-punishment and adopt it as your own. 

So true healing doesn’t come out of guilt, fear or punishment. 

It comes from claiming who you truly are on a soul level, and through claiming the power of your connection to God (Source). 

And it also comes from realizing that there is nothing in this world that could ever actually sever your connection with God, because your connection with God is not of this world, therefor nothing in this world can ever harm it.

And herein is your healing, your freedom, and your peace.